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I've been following your journey on social media since you fell pregnant with Albie, it's been beautiful to see you move into motherhood so graciously. You are very honest about mama life, the highs and the lows. Following honesty like that is very refreshing – so thank you. For those new to, or about to start their journey into motherhood, what do you think is important for them to know? What do you wish you had known before having Albie?

Thank you, that is very kind of you to say! I think it's essential for those embarking on motherhood for the first time to know that it's entirely normal for your baby to sleep on you. Embrace those moments and those long days. Surrender to being touched out because one day, you'll wish they were cuddling you again. I wish I'd known that, to not rush putting her down, baby-wear more and just hold on (while mentally letting go) a little longer. 

Becoming a mum has really changed my outlook on life. How has becoming Albie's mum changed your outlook on life?

Oh, same! It's changed my outlook more than I ever imagined it could.

I've wanted for less since having Albie – I have less desire to buy material things for myself and a longing to leave the earth in a better way than it was the day she was born. It's vital for me now to do something with a purpose in terms of my 'work' and make more conscious choices for our lifestyle and planet. I don't see the world as my own now, I see it as hers.

A lot of mums (and dads!!) struggle with anxious feelings, especially in those early days. This is still yet to be normalised and talked about openly, but progress is being made. This was something that affected me heavily in those first few weeks, but because these feelings are still not the "norm", this was something I kept close and tried to deal with alone. Was this something you were affected by? How do you find your calm when you have anxious feelings creeping in or are going through a particularly difficult season in motherhood?

Absolutely! My greatest source of anxiety was Mark going back to work after two weeks at home. Every time I thought about it, I broke down because I was petrified of being alone with this baby who I was still getting to know, but once we found our rhythm, we were fine.

Anxiety for me is always fear of the unknown, but I'm also the sort of person to face it head-on. I find my calm by focusing on what I can control, so in those early days, it was simply trying to achieve the essentials – feed, change, and get baby to sleep. For myself, it was to have a shower (my lifeline for starting the day well!), get out of the house for a sanity walk, and eat lunch. That was it. If I achieved all of that, I could be calm and everything else – like the washing and dinner prep – could wait until Mark was home.

When I'm going through a difficult season, I try not to compare our journey to how seemingly easily anyone else's appears to be (although if I have a mum friend going through something similar that reassurance that you're not alone is invaluable). But above all, I know intuitively that this too shall pass, so I focus on that and try (like really, really try!) to be empathetic, present and compassionate with Albie on those tough days.

You have talked a bit on social media about the thoughtful, sustainable changes you are making to your life, to help keep our mother earth beautiful. I think this is such an important topic. The thought of our babies growing up in a world affected heavily by global warming is terrifying. Since having Harper this has weighed heavily on my heart and has driven many changes in the way I consume. Which is why launching a circular clothing scheme alongside everyday the label is important to me. How has becoming a mama at a time where global warming is peaking affected you emotionally? What changes have you made to the way you consume? Do you have any suggestions on simple changes others can make to live more consciously?

Honestly, it weighs on my heart considerably. I have to have a bit of emotional self-preservation around things like the climate crisis; otherwise, it can overwhelm me. My friend Maddy, from The Twenties Club, said it perfectly when writing about the Australian bushfires:

"The side effect of our hyper-connectedness is that we often find ourselves in a permanent state of despair. And I don't think it's inappropriate to suggest that it's okay to take a break from breaking news, to switch off social media for 24 or 48 hours or as long as you need to reset your sanity. Logging off doesn't negate your compassion."

So, with that said, I live by the mantra of 'progress, not perfection' which encourages me to make more sustainable choices for our family and the way we consume.

  • We use cloth nappies and cloth wipes as much as possible with Albie, which has made a considerable impact on our output of waste.
  • I also purchase consciously when it comes to clothing and fashion, both for myself and for Albie. I'm one for investment pieces, local brands, and ethical garments as much as possible, and I also frequently purchase second-hand clothing and toys from op shops and Trade Me instead of buying brand new all the time.
  • I've just started shopping for our groceries at a local fruit and vegetable shop where much of the produce is locally sourced, and all is fresh and seasonal. We're not vegan or vegetarians, but we focus on eating as many plant-based meals as we can.
  • I have a rule of 'no Keep Cup, no coffee', and the same applies to reusable shopping bags, produce bags, and water bottles. Yes, they're only small changes, but they all add up.
  • We have a home compost, too. Globally, food-waste contributes approx. 8% of human-caused greenhouse gas emissions, so a home compost or worm farm is a great way to negate this. I look forward to educating Albie about the benefits of this when she's older. I'll be getting her in the garden to show her how great compost is for growing food.

And finally, I cannot wait to listen to your podcast Motherness. I really resonated with your introduction to Motherness on social, as I am sure so many others in our season did. There is such a need for this content, and I am so glad you are leading this. Can you give us a little insight into what you have planned in this space?

Thank you so much. I'm so excited for all that's to come with Motherness. The podcast launched in early Feb and the response has been overwhelmingly positive. The messages I've received have brought me to tears daily!

There are so many beautiful episodes to come – all exceptionally honest about each mother's journey. I hope to tell as many diverse stories as possible, so everyone feels heard when listening. I also have some experts coming on the podcast, which I hope will provide some much-needed reassurance and professional insight for our listeners.

I'm not planning anything beyond our current season at the moment, but there are so many topics I'd like to cover in the future. And I do have dreams of hosting Motherness events one day so we'll see!